Am I the only person who doesn’t ship Buffy with anyone? Buffy proved that she was strongest when not in a relationship. She didn’t need a ship to make her a hero. I wish people would focus less on “who buffy should be with” and more on Buffy herself. Sometimes I think the lessons in Buffy are slightly lost.
Certainly the “shipping” wars are impassioned on all sides and fans whose focus sometimes turns there do speak loudly about it. I don’t, however, believe this is where the majority of the fanbase puts its emphasis. Her “ships” are not what anyone seems to think makes her a hero as hundreds of scholarly articles and Buffy-inspired sayings like “WWBD” indicate. Moreover, I don’t necessarily think that love and strength/independence are mutually exclusive. Buffy’s greatest strength often sat directly in her ability to form connections and pool her (romantic and non-romantic) relationship-based resources to work together and solve/defeat the latest apocalyptic threat. Honestly, her ability to rise above heartbreak, work through it, and even use her emotions (which she, herself, said give her power) is another aspect to be inspired by. If the shipping wars seem too shallow for your focus, fine, that’s a fair point. You don’t have to ship her with anyone. But that’s hardly where the greater majority of fans focus, so I hope you can take heart in my observations. The most important lessons are hardly lost, even if sometimes people enjoy shipping Buffy with someone.